Reader DW turned me on to this little letter-writing war going on over whether or not it is offensive to call a group of people “you guys” even when there are women in the mix.
You know PittGirl’s feelings on that, right, you guys? Because don’t I always call you guys, you guys?
I do, you guys.
So listen to this particular letter:
It is demeaning to every lady to be greeted by a waiter, or even worse by a waitress, with the words “Hi you guys. How are you doin’ and what would you like?”
I will often stare at the perpetrator and say, “I am not a guy, I am a lady.” Unfortunately, they look at me as thought my head is not screwed on straight, but then they realize that I am serious and fumble around with an apology.
I have complained to many restaurant owners, but I really do not think they understand.
Maybe little signs can be made with the words, “I am not a ‘guy.’ I am a lady.” We can carry the sign in our purse and set it on a restaurant table if it proves to be necessary
Or maybe if every woman who agrees with the me and the Foleys writes the Post-Gazette, calls a talk show or finds another way to get the message across, the idea will hopefully sink in.
Is there someone in our wonderful city of Pittsburgh who is creative and willing to mass produce such a small easel sign? We need to educate not just restaurant wait staff but all service personnel and especially their employers.
Thank you for listening.
— FRANCES COHEN-KNOERDEL, Venetia
I think she’s serious about this little easel idea of hers. Oy. Also, SHE COMPLAINS TO RESTAURANT OWNERS?!
She actually asks for the owner and complains about the fact that her waitress, a young lady who was probably sweet as pie and gave the best service she could, had the audacity to say, “You guys.”
1. It is absolutely okay for her to be bothered by this, because I’m sure there are things that bother PittGirl that you guys are all, “Well, that wouldn’t bother me.” Not the point. The point is, maybe she’s overreacting about it?
2. The only way PittGirl would ever dare to complain to a restaurant owner would be if I witnessed my waiter peeing into my soup, and even then, I’d probably just leave without paying and never go back.
3. In other languages, Spanish at least, a mix of males and females always gets the masculine ending. Big frickin’ deal.
Two cousins, one a boy and one a girl are always “primos” not “primas.”
4. Lastly, I’m not sure, you guys, but I think Frances Cohen-Knoerdel might have a stick up her butt.
I could be wrong.